Parenting Parameters, workshop for parents.

Parenting Parameters, workshop for parents.

A workshop was held on Friday, 18 May 2012 at 8 am on DEMOCRATIC AND POSITIVE PARENTING by Ms. Sangeeta Aswani, VP, PTA. Approximately 70 parents attended this workshop which lasted for 90 minutes.

The 3 different types of Parenting Methods were discussed :- 1. AUTHORITARIAN 2. PERMISSIVE 3. DEMOCRATIC

Authoritarian Parenting creates children who :- lack social competence dont take initiative rebel and are hostile feel violence is acceptable / lie suppress pain / obey blindly out of fear

Permissive Parenting creates children who are ;- Selfish/inconsiderate Dominate and control parents Manipulate/irresponsible Disrespect authority disorganised

Democratic Parenting creates children who are :- Disciplined / in control Responsible/co-operative Good judgement /problem solving Good sense of humour Trust parents High self esteem Need for attention and affection is met

In Authoritarian Parenting PARENTS HAVE SOLE POWER In Permissive Parenting CHILDREN HAVE SOLE POWER In Democratic Parenting EVERYONE HAS A SENSE OF POWER NO POWER STRUGGLES

The Three reasons for Challenging Behaviour :- LEGITIMATE UNMET NEEDS

STRESS

ROLE MODELS

With an interactive session, it was proven that most types of challenging behaviour could be traced to these 3 reasons. Issues like how to handle aggression and whether sleep-overs should be permitted were also discussed.

SUGGESTIONS FOR DEMOCRATIC PARENTING:-

Share your budget with your children Never say NO to spending time Spare the rod but use the scanner Show respect for inter-personal relationships Dont compare Respect your children for what they are academically Be a friend, encourage transparency Encourage exercise and adopt a hobby

Social etiquette and adopt a rule book

Daily hug

The workshop ended on the note that at the end of the day that it was very important to ensure that parents connected with the child. But even more important to ensure that the child connects with the parent.

All parents requested that more such workshops be held which would help discuss problems appropriate to different age groups. eg., ages 4-10 and ages 11-16.

As filed by Ms. Aswani.